positive", "staying positive", "having a positive
attitude" -we hear these phrases
thrown around a lot. An endless flow of motivational books write about it,
psychologists discuss the topic in papers, and I'm sure we've all heard it at
This topic is incredibly
important to me and something I feel like people should be aware of. I've done so much research on it, I wrote essays on it during high school, I constantly search for quotes that remind
me about it; so, if in a month, or three months, you
see a Positivity Part 2 post on this blog don't be surprised! Hahaha. I have SO
much I could say on this topic but for now, I just kind of want to introduce
why, in my opinion, it's important. What
does it mean to be positive?
In grade 10 I read
some information about a research study conducted by Dr Masaru Emoto using
water crystals. Dr Emoto carried out a study on how thoughts, words, energy and
music affected water. He started off by freezing tiny amounts of water (taken
from all over the world) and photographed their molecular structures.
Basically, he discovered how saying, even thinking, words of gratitude and love
around water, changes its structure - likening it to the form of beautiful
snowflakes. He also found that saying and thinking about negative words could
make the structure of the water appear splotchy and eroded.
taped words such as "peace", "hope", "I love you"
and "Thank you" to glasses of water; as well as the words
"sick", "you fool", "hate". Both had profound
effects almost immediately.
The thing is -
science has shown us for a long time now that everything can broken down into (and is made of) energy.
If we break things
down, we see that matter is made out of atoms.
If we break down
atoms, we see that atoms are just vibrating energy.
Dr Emoto's study
showed that it's the same with water, and it's the same with our bodies as
well. Think about it like this for a moment: Approximately 70% of the average
person is made up of water. Doesn't that mean our thoughts and words can have
an enlightened effect on our bodies too?
Building my mind on
positive thoughts and continuously feeding it with more is so meaningful to me.
What you put out and what you focus on is what you get back.
Let's get something
straight: Negativity is pointless. Why am I saying this? Not only does it just
invite more negative thoughts into our lives, but have a read of this story:
walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she
raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty
or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she enquired: "How
heavy is this glass of water?"
replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I
hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an
hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel
numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but
the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water.
Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer
and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel
paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."
Negativity living in
your mind just breeds more negativity; similarly, positivitybreeds positivity.
I know a lot of
people who have gone through, or are going through, incredibly hard and tough
times in their lives. By NO means am I marginalising the validity of the
negativity they feel towards whatever they're dealing with, or even asking them
to suppress it. It is inhumane to not feel pain or sadness - positive thinking
does not equal emotional suppression.
The thing is - we
all have problems. But to lose out on happiness just because we are placing too
much focus on our problems, that's not ideal. Positive thinking IS NOT about
waking up positive everyday or being positive 100% of every day, for the rest of
your life - it is about making an effort to focus on the good things. We've all
heard the "You are what you eat", so I'm going to say it right now that, "You are what you think".
Once something has
happened you can't really change it, but you can definitely change your
attitude towards what you're building next. Once choice at a time, you can
build a new start - build it with positive thoughts.
When you do have
your dark periods, allow yourself to feel what you need - feel sad, rage, cry
into a pillow, sulk for a few days - bask in your emotions. It's okay and it's
normal, we're human. But, also try and remember and accept that period as a
gift in your life - it'll allow you to appreciate the light more.
When you are blessed
with great periods, revel in that! Celebrate it, get as much positivity out of
it as you can!
I am big on
promoting what you love, instead of bashing what you hate. Personally, I think
that it is SUCH an easy way to start focusing on positivity instead of
negativity. It's something that many people can really struggle with on social
media - I saw this photo yesterday and it really makes you think, hey?
We all have one life
to live, one set of footprints with which to leave an imprint on this world,
why not make it something positive?
happen when you distance yourself from negativity. You feel happiness, you put
yourself onto a different wavelength; you feel bouncy, bright, content, chirpy,
effervescent, enthusiastic, joyful, lively, optimistic, upbeat, about life. Life
gives you back more things on that same wavelength.
So, to your lovely self who happens to be reading this
today, remember this:
Your thinking has
the biggest potential to transform you - for better, or for worse. So…
Is today a great
day? There's no reason it can't be! Here’s to hoping we all appreciate it ❤️ Today, try to count your blessings instead of your problems.
you’re not sure where to start, let me help you out with these☺️
"Did you ever
realize how much your body loves you? I mean its always trying to keep you
alive. That’s all your body has to live for. Your body is making sure you
breathe while you sleep, stopping cuts from bleeding, fixing broken bones,
finding ways to beat the illnesses that might get you. Your body literally
loves you so much."
breathing. The beating of your heart. The expansion of your lungs. Your mere
presence is all that is needed to establish your worth." - Iyanla
New blog post will be up next wednesday!
P.S. I know I promised photos from my weekend away in last week's
post, but because I didn't want this post to turn
into any more of an essay than it already has (hahaha whoops...sorry about
that!) I'll put up a short post tomorrow mainly with pretty photos! :)
They're all linked so you should just be able to click on
Have a great rest of the week!
Can I also just say one more thing (and then I'll shut up I promise! Haha) -
thank you so much for reading this post, this one means a lot to me - and please, share it with someone who you think could be
uplifted by it, someone who needs a little positivity in their life right now.