When your ex downgrades…

So, I saw this photo the other day

And it inspired me to write this:

"When your ex downgrades". This is a phrase that has been floating around the internet a lot as of late, and it's usually in reference to an individual's physical appearance. There are an endless supply of memes regarding this idea, and sure, they may be funny to see for a split second - I will be the first to say when I saw this photo below, my reaction was "HAHAHAHA".

I think it's hilarious as a joke (I just love how sassy it is).

But if you actually, seriously analyse comments like these: 


…it's wrong on so many levels.

I can sum up my views on phrases like that by saying one simple sentence:
  Attractiveness, beauty, being good-looking or 'hot', has absolutely NO relation to creating or being in a good relationship. 
Simple as that. No relation whatsoever.

By no means am I discounting that physical attraction plays a significant role in relationships (but that's for another blogpost…), however, what is anyone's right to judge what is attractive to another individual? Let alone what is mentally and emotionally fulfilling for them.

Generally, most of us hate being judged, right? Yet, it's something we all do quite a bit.  But, can you imagine if you were someone's new boyfriend or girlfriend, how would it feel being referred to as the "downgrade"? I mean, I would hope you would know your own self-worth enough to not let it affect you, but it isn't the loveliest thought hey?

One thing I've always found interesting, is when someone says "Oh did you hear Tim got a new girlfriend?", one of the very first, if not the first, question asked is, "Is she pretty?".  Why is that one of the first things we think about? That's a very good question, and incredibly telling of the priorities our society has conditioned us with.

Maybe someone may not find their ex's new partner attractive, but what difference does that make? Leave the ex out of it altogether though! The amount of times it's generally said, "Oh she's beautiful, but her boyfriend isn't that good-looking". 
Two words. 
Physical attractiveness has no bearing on the quality of a relationship in the slightest. That could be the most solid, supportive relationship right there and the only thing people are focusing on is the outside appearance. 


Maybe I'm not one to talk since I've never been put in the situation, but personally, the first two messages in that photo say it all - we are all individuals with different opinions. 
Stay true to your opinions and respect others' opinions.

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  1. PREACH! My thoughts exactly! I got a little scared when I saw the thumbnail and the title of the post but I'm so glad I checked it out because it's so positive and exactly the kind of message we should be spreading! :)


  2. Haha, I didn't even realise the title and photo could be misleading till now :P Glad someone else thinks this way too though - I feel quite passionate about it.

  3. I have to admit that I've only ever seen these memes, laughed and then moved on. It wasn't until I read this post that I really stopped to think about what they actually mean - so thank you for opening up my eyes. xo

    1. Thank YOU for seeing it this way! Yeah exactly, I would always find them funny in a sassy kind of way, but in a serious way - I just think it's so far from what our mindsets should be!




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