Introductions, Impressions and Insecurities


All within the first 8 minutes and 30 seconds of meeting another human being?

Sounds a bit overwhelming, no?

It was for these two, Kelsey and Nick.



But I feel like for every part of this that was potentially quite uncomfortable,
it was just as potentially rewarding, and quite liberating?

The premise: 
{THE AND} Blind Date │ Nick & Kelsey, 2 strangers on a blind date who might've never had the chance to meet each other, playfully break through first impressions and unravel each other's insecurities.

Now, my friend sent me this video a little while back and I had no idea what I was clicking on, but I got so hooked and so intrigued, very quickly.

It truly is super interesting.

Both individuals acknowledge from quite early on that there are obvious differences between them,
yet they generate some amazing chemistry,
within less than 9 minutes.

I know for sure some people in society would view them as such a "different couple", and think at first glance that they're probably not meant for each other.

But that's what I love about videos like this.
It boils everything down to just the genuine attraction and chemistry between two human beings, physically, intellectually, emotionally.

One of my friends made a great point about how this shows why dating apps like Tinder aren't ideal:
"If they had seen each other just in pictures, would they have really swiped right? Probably not, because by social norms, they wouldn't have seemed compatible".

It was interesting to see these two individuals quite openly and honestly address their differences.
Followed by their weaknesses.
And their needs.

Imagine if everyone talked about deeper, more vulnerable stuff straight after we met each other?

And on the note of that question,
here's to the end of another contemplative post by Raashi :P

Would LOVE to hear your thoughts in the comments below 
on this interesting social experiment!  ☺️ 

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36 comments:

  1. I've seen several videos like this on Buzzfeed before and it's always intrigued me. The notion of opening up completely to a stranger to generate instant chemistry seems to be the thread stringing all of these videos together, and I'm quite tempted to try it myself. I've always been rather reserved when I meet people, only revealing myself once I've decided a person is trustworthy (a process which can take up to more than a year). Perhaps that's the reason why the people I can call "friends" are rather scarce? Hahaha, loved the little discussion-inducing post, Raashi!

    MAY | WWW.THEMAYDEN.COM

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    1. Firstly, how great is youtube, channels like this one and Buzzfeed for creating situations and content like this! Secondly, I so agree, it's fascinating to watch two individuals be so wholeheartedly open with each other from the get go. Also, I totally get what you mean about only completely revealing yourself to those you deem trustworthy, I can count the people I'm completely open with on just one hand - and I don't think that's a bad thing.

      Haha, thanks so much for reading, May!

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  2. What an interesting video and interesting concept! While I think the goal of the video is not to only focus on race, I think in general regardless of what kind of group we are in (be it a social group like punks, or preps - super typical but just go with me here) it's hard to venture out of those groups and approach someone from a different group so this just goes to show how many opportunities we may be missing out on (in addition to how tinder really isn't a great indicator for potential chemistry as well like you mentioned)

    Rae | Love from Berlin

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    1. So, so, SO true, Rae. Couldn't have put it better myself. I definitely thinking that showcasing that wasn't the goal of the video, impressions, conversations, chemistry were all at the forefront - but it's so great that the video can branch out into showcasing even more than just that. You are so correct when you say we all could be missing out on many opportunities just through us not being used to venturing out into different groups. Groups we're personally involved in can provide so much comfort, groups we're not used to can provide so much confusion for us. Yet another double-edged sword in our lives, haha.

      Thank you so much for your comment, Rae <3

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    1. It really is very cool, thanks for reading, Laura!

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  4. I LOVED reading this Raashi, its so different to every other post I read, and the video is so interesting, I'm glad I found it through your blog because I don't think I would've found it otherwise. And I hate it when people immediately judge, its the worst scenario ever and it really pisses me off because every one is different and everyone has their own story, you can't know that just by looking at someone's face. Before I really go off on one, I should probably stop haha ♥

    tipscapsule.blogspot.com

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    1. That actually means so much to me, Trishna, thank you. It's so nice to share things I've found or been shown with other people :) Haha, no, no, don't every worry about stopping with me, I love when people are passionate about issues - especially ones like the one you were discussing. You could not be more right when you say everyone has their own story, and don't even know the HALF of it. Judgement is something we all have to try our best to keep in check.

      Thank you for reading, Trishna! ♥

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  5. Such an interesting post! I've seen similar videos like these where people are set up on blind dates but in a dark room where they can't see each other. So they have to talk and see if they're compatible before being able to see what each other looks like. I think it's such an interesting concept. Thanks for posting! x

    TOUCHOFGUCCI // BLOGLOVIN

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    1. Oooh, that sounds so, so cool. I'll try to check out some of those, it really is such a great concept to watch unfold! Thanks for reading, lovely! <3

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  6. Just stumbled across your blog & love your thoughtful yet sensitive way of writing. Here's to more contemplative posts because I really enjoy them!
    Much love!
    Ana
    www.namastefromananya.com

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    1. Ana, this is such a beautiful compliment. Thank you so much, that means a whole lot to me. Thanks for stopping by my blog! ♥

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  7. The post is fantastic! I love it so much!:)
    Have a nice day!

    www.theprintedsea.blogspot.com

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  8. Loved reading this thoughtful post! I'll have to watch the video later when I have more time :) xxx

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    1. Thank you, Miranda! If you get a chance, for sure give it a watch - it's quite cool! :)

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  9. Like everyone else, I've always find these videos interesting. But unlike everyone else, it's less because of how much strangers interact and make instant connections, but rather how easy it is. It's easy to tell strangers everything because they don't know you, like your friends do. You're a blank canvas to them. And that fascinates me.

    xx Bash | H E Y   B A S H | bloglovin'

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    1. Bash, thank you for this comment, that's actually so, so true. It is quite fascinating that sometimes we can be more open to being completely and truly ourselves when talking to a stranger who doesn't "know" us.

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  10. This was quite an interesting video

    Joyce // Joycentricity

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  11. I studied sociology as a module for my undergrad so I found this so compelling. Most of the stuff we looked at focused on how friends converse but its so interesting to see how strangers can open up to each other! x

    Viva Epernay

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    1. Oh, that's so interesting! I do psych at the moment, but have had quite a few friends doing some sociology subjects! It's so different to see strangers interacting, for sure!

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  12. Interesting experiment! I think that judging people based on first impressions is a little unfair, yes, but it's just part of human nature (I think). I believe that the key is to not let those first impressions completely influence our opinion of somebody. x x If you looked at me and my boyfriend, I doubt you'd think that we're compatible 'at first glance'. But we get along so well, and are very compatible on an emotional level - which, in the end, is all that really matters. :) Great post, darling! I always enjoy your contemplative posts! :D <3

    Kay
    http://www.shoesandglitter.com/

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    1. Oh I definitely have to agree with you, Kay, it very much is part of human nature. And again, you're so right in saying it's how we let those judgements potentially develop and influence us that is the significant part. Aww I love that, 100% that emotional compatibility is so key.

      Thank you for reading, lovely! :)

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  13. Awww! Cute! I want them to be together now. How awkward though?! I would die. I mean, I am always hyper-aware of my face and the way I react to things so I could never do this being filmed haha! xxx
    Lucy @ La Lingua | Food, Travel, Italy

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    1. ME TOO, haha. I started shipping them as a couple so much, haha. It is SO confronting in a really casual way, if that makes any sense at all? Haha. Oh, I can relate to you on that, I get so self-conscious with cameras :P

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  14. I love these types of videos, they're so interesting to see! I do hope they're not scripted, as I'm so fascinated by these.

    I saw another one, the 36 questions to make you fall in love! They were very interesting, and I tried it out with someone. It made for engaging conversation, but definitely not love. It makes you feel much closer though!

    Angelina Is | Bloglovin'

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    1. Awww, yeah I really hope they're not scripted either! :( Oooh, I didn't realise there was a video about that, I read an article about that series of questions though - looked so, so cool, I'm so impressed that you tried it out with someone! It seems like it would allow for a connection on a much deeper level, hey? I should give it a go eventually! :P

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  15. This is such a good subject to talk about! :D
    People in the video were super friendly and talkative, I am not sure I could do the same with strangers haha.
    In my country, for example,it is unusual to approach a girl/guy and ask for a coffee/number/date (except in night clubs,I guess) if you do not know them already. That makes is quite hard to get to know someone if they are not connected to your circle of friends. Even if you meet someone new,conversations are usually based around small talk and very shallow. I would actually love to talk to people about deeper stuff when I get to know them but I am not sure I could. Even with the internet widely avaliable,we still cannot connect to each other based on things unrelated to looks (if you try going to penpal sites; post a photo- get spammed by creeps, don't post a photo- never get a reply from anyone,even though you have a long description about your likes/dislikes/hobbies). A shame,really. It would be nicer if we were more honest and trust other people more.
    -I wrote a lot on my phone,I hope I am making some sense and that it's not all jumbled up haha

    aluminah.wordpress.

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    1. Rory, this makes SO much sense! Firstly, thank you for reading and watching the video! Secondly, I have to agree with you in that whenever two strangers meet (just friends or dating, or any relationship) it very much centres on small talk. I have wished many times with people I've met that I could dive straight into the more meaningful stuff. You are so right when it comes to outlining the difficulties we face even with connecting with "strangers" over the internet. It would be incredible if we didn't have to worry about either of those scenarios :/ On the upside, blogging is awesome for that, hey? :)

      Thank you for your comment, it really made me think! :)

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